Three Experiments for Catalyzing Self-Trust

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I Don’t Know…

These three words are powerful. I hear them often in my conversations with womxn, and I’ve thought, spoken, even screamed them many times, too. I’ve noticed that feeling disconnected from our knowing is a theme for womxn and that it often stems from self-doubt. Feeling resourced and connected to our knowing stems from self-trust. It’s clear to me after decades of healing, both experienced and observed, that catalyzing self-trust is one of the foundational elements in revolutionary healing.

Origins

I remember struggling with decisions—big and small—in my youth: Should I buy the shirt, take the class, break up with […]

Womxn to Know: My Sisters in Healing

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There are so many ways to introduce this blog post, so many things to say about WHY this post is important. I’ll keep it short and simple, though, so that you can invest your time in getting to know these womxn—my sisters in healing—who I’m inspired by right now.

My inner fire ignites when I’m connecting with womxn who are committed to authenticity, growth, and healing. I know that, while my healing begins within me, it expands in relationship with others. We need each other on our healing journeys. One of the magical things about these healing connections is that they are rarely one-way. Whether we’re seeking support or offering it, […]

Alchemizing Healing with Our Symptoms

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The conversations I have with women—clients, friends, and healers—illuminate the commonalities we share in our healing processes. If you’re a return reader you know I share my personal process at times, a process which I know has no end. I will always be healing, evolving, transforming. This is true for anyone on a healing path. It’s one of a handful of universal healing principles I’m realizing through my process and my work.

Recently some uncomfortable (and old) symptoms returned to my body and reminded me of this truth once again. I am always in process. A conversation with my homeopath about these symptoms […]

On All-or-Nothing Thinking

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Do the words in this picture resonate for you?

They resonate for a younger version of me. And, they still resonate for me sometimes, although to a lesser degree and in different ways than when I was younger.

The holidays often bring up all-or-nothing thinking and doing for folks, especially around health—food, exercise, and alcohol are at the center of holiday festivities, whether we’re together or alone together in a pandemic.

All-or-nothing thinking and doing can arise from many parts of ourselves and our lives. Here I briefly outline possible origins of all-or-nothing thinking and […]

When You’re Climbing the Walls: Cultivating Flow in the Nervous System

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I posted this photo on Instagram recently and wondered if any of you, like me and my kitty, are climbing the walls? For me, climbing the walls is another way to say that my body and my mind are feeling the effects of stored stress physiology. It’s as if my body has one foot on the gas pedal (fight or flight) and one foot on the breaks (freeze), and it leaves me feeling both activated and exhausted, electric and burned out. I’m acutely aware how this space and this time are challenging my nervous system in new and profound ways AND giving me the opportunity to […]

On the Practice and Power of Pausing

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It’s Election Day today. I woke at 4:30am with an anxious kiddo who needed some TLC. Our tween daughter’s angst, while understandable, felt rather unmanageable in our attempt to arrive on time for the school line-up.

So, I had a good cry this morning…a cleansing, softening, releasing cry. I held myself with extra tenderness, honoring my body’s craving for humming in my morning meditation. Journaling came first before work today, because I needed a giant PAUSE. I chose not to wait until later in the day, despite the pressing to-do list. And, because it’s Election Day today, I’ll be pausing even more than I typically do.

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Two Truths About Self-Awareness | The Course

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I shared my first ever course with a small group of womxn in June. For months prior I’d been envisioning a workshop, ideas flowing from pen to paper in random spots in my journal. At some point I realized I had more than a workshop in those notes, which were a culmination of my personal healing experience, my professional training, and my education. So, six womxn gathered with me virtually, mid-pandemic, to explore the foundations for a course in self-awareness. This trial run—and their invaluable feedback on the course format and content—led me to the version of Self-Awareness | The Course that I’ve been sharing with […]

Nothing Is Wrong With You

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I wrote these words for my community of letter subscribers recently, and I’m sharing them here now, because womxn told me they needed to hear it.

Do you ever wonder if you’re OK? Do you ever think or feel like something is wrong with you?

This used to be one of my patterns of thinking, a trauma adaptation and a product of the subconscious belief that I was broken. Through my personal healing and my work with other healing womxn, I came to know that I was not alone. Womxn breathe the air of our patriarchal culture, which programs us to question our bodies, our feelings, our thoughts, our Selves. We’re conditioned to question our OK-ness in other ways, too. […]

How Do You Decide?

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Our family had an important decision to make this week. For the first time in a long time, I struggled to connect with what felt good and right for me and my family.

Despite the challenge, there were nuggets of goodness in this process. One was the reminder of my continuous evolution. I realized the uncomfortable sensations and feelings that accompanied this process, while distantly familiar, are no longer an everyday thing. For me, the “Big D” feelings that understandably come with Big D (or seemingly life-altering) decisions plagued me even with inconsequential decisions. Another nugget of goodness was the opportunity to take a coaching approach with myself. After some time spinning my […]

A Short List of Things I’m Learning and Remembering

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I recently posted on Instagram that I’m feeling the pull to rest and reflect, to go inward. This great awakening is offering me so many opportunities for healing, and rest is a crucial part of that healing. We’re almost halfway through 2020—this pull to rest and reflect is my body is syncing up with the time and season so I can create space for integration of all the work in the first half of this year.

In this spirit, I thought I’d share a short list of some of the ways I’m healing and learning right now. I feel like it’s important to […]