When You’re Climbing the Walls: Cultivating Flow in the Nervous System

Reading Time: 13 minutes

I posted this photo on Instagram recently and wondered if any of you, like me and my kitty, are climbing the walls? For me, climbing the walls is another way to say that my body and my mind are feeling the effects of stored stress physiology. It’s as if my body has one foot on the gas pedal (fight or flight) and one foot on the breaks (freeze), and it leaves me feeling both activated and exhausted, electric and burned out. I’m acutely aware how this space and this time are challenging my nervous system in new and profound ways AND giving me the opportunity to […]

On the Practice and Power of Pausing

Reading Time: 4 minutes

It’s Election Day today. I woke at 4:30am with an anxious kiddo who needed some TLC. Our tween daughter’s angst, while understandable, felt rather unmanageable in our attempt to arrive on time for the school line-up.

So, I had a good cry this morning…a cleansing, softening, releasing cry. I held myself with extra tenderness, honoring my body’s craving for humming in my morning meditation. Journaling came first before work today, because I needed a giant PAUSE. I chose not to wait until later in the day, despite the pressing to-do list. And, because it’s Election Day today, I’ll be pausing even more than I typically do.

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Why It’s Hard for Women to Trust Our Bodies (and Why it Matters)

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“Trust your body more,” my husband offered during my moment of anxiety last week. “Think less.”

“I love it when you hand my words back to me,” I replied knowingly and appreciatively. He smirked. My husband often reminds me of what I already know and what I sometimes lose touch with when my nervous system gets triggered and old patterns come for a visit.

More and more I trust my body, and dwelling in this space of trust has been one of the most transformative shifts on my healing journey. Life continues to offer opportunities to deepen and expand this trust, which is where I am now—a moment of opportunity. I know […]

Two Truths About Self-Awareness | The Course

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I shared my first ever course with a small group of womxn in June. For months prior I’d been envisioning a workshop, ideas flowing from pen to paper in random spots in my journal. At some point I realized I had more than a workshop in those notes, which were a culmination of my personal healing experience, my professional training, and my education. So, six womxn gathered with me virtually, mid-pandemic, to explore the foundations for a course in self-awareness. This trial run—and their invaluable feedback on the course format and content—led me to the version of Self-Awareness | The Course that I’ve been sharing with […]

Nothing Is Wrong With You

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I wrote these words for my community of letter subscribers recently, and I’m sharing them here now, because womxn told me they needed to hear it.

Do you ever wonder if you’re OK? Do you ever think or feel like something is wrong with you?

This used to be one of my patterns of thinking, a trauma adaptation and a product of the subconscious belief that I was broken. Through my personal healing and my work with other healing womxn, I came to know that I was not alone. Womxn breathe the air of our patriarchal culture, which programs us to question our bodies, our feelings, our thoughts, our Selves. We’re conditioned to question our OK-ness in other ways, too. […]

Racism is a Public Health Issue

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I muted myself last week on social media, inspired by Jessica Wilson and Alishia McCullough‘s Amplify Melanated Voices movement. I paused and invested more time in listening, learning, and taking action. I invite you to read my blog thoughts (at the bottom of this page) AFTER you look through this list of resources and, if you haven’t already, pick a few Black men and women to learn from and listen to right now. Their voices are more impactful and important than my own in this work. I’ve first highlighted the voices and resources that I’ve already been following. Below that I’ve included […]

Take What You Need: Nourishing Resources, Part 2

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Welcome to part two of my nourishing resources blog post. In part one I shared resources to support your heart and mind as well as lifestyle recommendations for strengthening all the parts of you. I recommend going back to my previous post if you missed it, as it goes hand-in-hand with the information below. Nourishing our bodies with nutrients only goes so far in building resilience—our minds, hearts, and spirits need attention, too. Our nervous system is at the core of our health and healing, so you may also want to check out my post with tools for managing anxiety as well. […]

Take What You Need: Nourishing Resources for Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit, Part 1

Reading Time: 9 minutes

My mind and heart are overwhelmed by all that is happening in our world right now. The feelings are big and hard, and while I know they’ll get smaller and easier someday, the uncertainty and unknowns will likely be here for a while. I’ve seen so many people showing up to support each other in so many ways, and that makes me feel hopeful even as I grieve and move through the feelings. I’ve been contemplating how I can best serve from home as I also teach my kiddos and nurture my family. I shared on Instagram this week that I’m offering six weeks of free […]

Tools for Managing COVID-19 Anxiety for You and Your Family

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Fear. Worry. Anxiety. I know them all intimately. I have years of experience healing through anxiety. And as a mom I now hold my kiddo’s hands as they walk through their own flavors of anxiety.

Anxiety is high in our collective consciousness. Even though I’m not feeling overwhelmed by it myself, I can still sense physiological changes in my body. The concern I feel for the vulnerable among us weighs on my heart. I also feel a bit confused and disoriented as we orient to a new, albeit temporary, normal (I’m suddenly trying on the homeschooling that I’ve wondered about). Everyone’s experience looks and feels a bit different, and still, we’re […]

Navigating Transitions through Self-Awareness and Mindful Practice

Reading Time: 15 minutes

*This post provides a tool for you to use at another time, hence the longer than normal reading time!

Transitions are ubiquitous. They’re not only big, life-altering events, but they’re also daily occurrences. If you’ve shared your day with a child, she’s likely made you aware of all the transitions that are happening in her day. Shifting from playtime to mealtime, sleeping to waking, or school to home can ignite a variety of emotions. Adults make similar transitions throughout the day from sleeping to waking, work to home, or home to work, too. It’s understandably hard for kids and adults to switch gears—we are creatures of habit, […]