Revolutionary Healing Part 3: The Power of Partnership

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In the early stages of my healing, I oriented myself toward fixing my dis-ease and toward the belief that I was not OK. So I scurried from one practitioner or doctor to another, certain that one of them would confirm my belief with a diagnosis and fix what (I thought) broke in me. Many did offer me a plan or a protocol, and for a time I thought that if I ate their diet, took their supplements, followed their steps, or bought their program, I’d be well.

This is what I unconsciously sought then—someone to do the heavy lifting for me, to give me an […]

Three Experiments for Catalyzing Self-Trust

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I Don’t Know…

These three words are powerful. I hear them often in my conversations with womxn, and I’ve thought, spoken, even screamed them many times, too. I’ve noticed that feeling disconnected from our knowing is a theme for womxn and that it often stems from self-doubt. Feeling resourced and connected to our knowing stems from self-trust. It’s clear to me after decades of healing, both experienced and observed, that catalyzing self-trust is one of the foundational elements in revolutionary healing.

Origins

I remember struggling with decisions—big and small—in my youth: Should I buy the shirt, take the class, break up with […]

Why It’s Hard for Women to Trust Our Bodies (and Why it Matters)

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“Trust your body more,” my husband offered during my moment of anxiety last week. “Think less.”

“I love it when you hand my words back to me,” I replied knowingly and appreciatively. He smirked. My husband often reminds me of what I already know and what I sometimes lose touch with when my nervous system gets triggered and old patterns come for a visit.

More and more I trust my body, and dwelling in this space of trust has been one of the most transformative shifts on my healing journey. Life continues to offer opportunities to deepen and expand this trust, which is where I am now—a moment of opportunity. I know […]

Nothing Is Wrong With You

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I wrote these words for my community of letter subscribers recently, and I’m sharing them here now, because womxn told me they needed to hear it.

Do you ever wonder if you’re OK? Do you ever think or feel like something is wrong with you?

This used to be one of my patterns of thinking, a trauma adaptation and a product of the subconscious belief that I was broken. Through my personal healing and my work with other healing womxn, I came to know that I was not alone. Womxn breathe the air of our patriarchal culture, which programs us to question our bodies, our feelings, our thoughts, our Selves. We’re conditioned to question our OK-ness in other ways, too. […]

How Do You Decide?

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Our family had an important decision to make this week. For the first time in a long time, I struggled to connect with what felt good and right for me and my family.

Despite the challenge, there were nuggets of goodness in this process. One was the reminder of my continuous evolution. I realized the uncomfortable sensations and feelings that accompanied this process, while distantly familiar, are no longer an everyday thing. For me, the “Big D” feelings that understandably come with Big D (or seemingly life-altering) decisions plagued me even with inconsequential decisions. Another nugget of goodness was the opportunity to take a coaching approach with myself. After some time spinning my […]

More on Free Thinking: Questioning with Empathy and Compassion

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I’m an empath who’s still learning to find my edge. Empathy and sensitivity are superpowers when wielded well, but this superpower can feel like a heavy weight when I’m unclear about  where I end and others begin. Boundaries are essential.

I’ve been feeling this weight a lot lately, which is a signal for me to return to myself. One way I do this is through journaling and writing. Putting words on paper creates space for my truth and my edge to emerge. One of my readers gave me some touching feedback this week—she told me to keep writing; that the world needs to hear what I have to say. I hope that when […]

Delivered to My Healing

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I love this picture of my mom and me.

When I was younger, this photo reminded me that my mom was not only my mom. I could glimpse her as a daughter, a sister, a wife, a friend, a co-worker, and a woman with experiences, feelings, needs, and interests of her own, independent of me. I was in awe of this and of her.

My mom always laughed when she talked to her best friend. She still does. When I was young, this felt like another glimpse into my mom as not only my mom. She was someone else, too. And that felt good. I felt her laughter in […]

Three Important Things I’m Still Learning

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I’m still learning how to be who I know I am.

There was a time when I was disconnected from my essence. I was trying to find myself, although I wasn’t lost. Rather, I was yearning to re-member myself. I was, quite literally, trying to reconnect all the parts of me to each other. Healing has called for increasing levels of self-awareness, and this self-awareness has, in turn, offered the deep healing of remembering myself, even as I evolve through space and time. And yet, I’m still learning how to be who I know I am in a culture that has often asked me to be […]

Coaching & Healing: What I Do and What I Don’t Do

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My husband trades energy. I remember feeling confused and intrigued when I first learned about his job. I found it difficult to grasp the idea of buying and selling things that don’t actually exist, especially because I’d immersed myself in the realm of health psychology, not economics or finance. He explained it to me in English, of course, but to me the language of his work was a foreign language that I struggled to comprehend.

I think this happens with my work sometimes. When I talk to people who don’t have experience with coaching and healing, the language I use to describe it may, indeed, feel like a foreign language. I […]

2020: Taking up space, your theme, and a free workbook.

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I remember trying to make myself smaller in various ways throughout my youth. At sixteen years old, this meant making myself thinner. I never intended to take up so little space, but my brain became addicted to the drug that is starvation. And later in my adult life, despite trying to gain weight, Lyme disease robbed my pancreas of enzyme production and thwarted my efforts. While I’ve healed through both challenges, I’ve recently come to understand that this theme still permeates my life, albeit in different ways.

I’ve been addressing the foundations of healing for years. Only recently, after […]