I’m passionate about revolutionizing healing for women. If you read my first two blog posts, which share my story and my healing journey, you already know why that is. But you might not know what revolutionary healing looks like.
Ultimately, I believe revolutionary healing is born from a fundamental shift in the way we connect with ourselves, others, and the world. This kind of healing is not just for people who are sick. Healing is for everyone. We’re all capable of healing, or strengthening our wholeness, through every challenge or good thing that comes our way. Everyone’s healing looks different, yet, I know from my personal healing and professional experience that healing can’t flourish without certain foundational elements in place.
Coaching and mentoring are tools I use to catalyze revolutionary healing, but it’s the work that you do within these containers and out in your life that alters the shape of your connections and fosters your continual growth and evolution. I’m a catalyst. You’re the healer.
So, what does being your own healer look like? And what are the foundational elements that fuel revolutionary healing?
You may have seen this graphic in How I Heal or on my website. It reflects my experience that revolutionary healing flourishes at the intersection of self-love, self-trust, and self-expression within the larger container of self-awareness. Each of these is not a state to achieve, rather they are evolving processes and practices that we must explore every day to foster a relationship with ourselves. A flourishing connection with ourselves ripples out to our connections with others and with the world. Each one of these practices I describe below deserves its own blog post, so stay tuned for more!
Self-awareness is a prerequisite to self-love, self-trust, and self-expression. The growth and healing we’re talking about requires an awareness of underlying beliefs, thoughts, feelings, narratives, patterns, tendencies, our bodies, and the list goes on. For example, we need an awareness of our feelings and beliefs if we want to express ourselves authentically; but often layers of conditioning and self-protection bury these feelings and beliefs. This is, at its core, a journey of self-discovery. Mindfulness, pausing, self-check-ins, vulnerable conversations, journaling, asking ourselves powerful questions, turning towards parts of ourselves we’re avoiding–these are some ways we expand our awareness and create a container within which our self-love, self-trust, and self-expression can grow.
Self-love is much more than saying “I love myself,” and it’s more than self-care. Self-love is a living, breathing thing that strengthens when we fuel it regularly and well. Self-love means choosing all of ourselves more and more, even the parts we’re not comfortable with. It means growing in our recognition of our uniqueness, our innate goodness, our inherent worth, and our wholeness. And it’s a practice that we engage with every day in the choices we make, the thoughts we think, the words we speak. For me now, self-love looks like radical acceptance of my feelings and my duality (I’m both this and that), making conscious choices to honor my body’s needs, noticing and halting negative self-talk, and being the kind of friend to myself that I am to others.
Equally important for revolutionary healing is trust in ourselves. Self-trust can be especially challenging to learn for those of us healing through chronic illness or trauma. Whether you weren’t taught to trust your feelings or your body, or you lost trust through traumatic life experiences, trust can be fostered through practice. It’s been one of my greatest areas of struggle and growth, because for so long I’d been disconnected from my intuition, my body’s signals, my heart’s messages, and my healing capacity. So many of my challenges and symptoms shifted when I strengthened these connections and began trusting myself. We can practice by honing and honoring our intuition, keeping promises to ourselves, listening to our body’s signals for food, water, and sleep, allowing ourselves to feel our feelings, and ultimately, healing our dysregulated nervous systems, which expands our capacity to distinguish between intuition and fear, real and perceived threats.
Self-expression asks us to share and express our authentic selves out in the world. This means allowing ourselves to be seen in all our wholeness. It means sharing our unique gifts and embracing your inherent creativity. And, it means communicating our needs, wants, and desires, which also includes setting boundaries. This aspect of healing, in particular, cultivates authentic connections with others as it demands a willingness to be vulnerable. For me, self-expression is a continuous journey of learning how to speak my truths and tolerate conflict, being seen in all my wholeness in my work, and exploring my creative side.
Revolutionary healing asks us to embrace and strengthen our innate wholeness, which asks us to connect with life, illness, wellness, and ourselves in ever-evolving ways. This means recognizing that we’re nuanced human beings who are both this and that. It means accepting all those varying parts of ourselves. It means working on integrating all these parts into one whole that works together for our highest good. It means giving attention to mind, heart, body, and spirit in any state of disease or wellness. It means healing our dysregulated nervous systems. Whether you’re confronting a career change, a chronic illness, or you want more peace and flow in your life, you can’t experience the profound shifts you seek if you don’t address all of your parts. You can’t heal your body without also healing your heart and mind. You can’t heal your mind without also healing your body and your nervous system. You’re a package deal.
You are your own best expert, your best medicine, and your best healer. And, while we absolutely need a tribe of good people and practitioners to support us when we’re healing through illness, growing through parenting, or evolving through a career change, nobody can do this work for us. We must believe we can heal and that we deserve it, and we must do the work. I’ve experienced profound shifts in my life through homeopathy, cranial-sacral work, acupuncture, and more. But, until I did the foundational work above, which is still often catalyzed by coaching and therapy, these other modalities had limited potential.
Revolutionary healing is not a one-size-fits all approach. We must open our minds to the possibility, the reality, that we are mysterious human beings who heal in multitudes of ways. We must learn to recognize our bodies, hearts, and minds for the miracles they are, sharing their wisdom with us in every moment. When we stop suppressing our wholeness and deepen our connections to self, others, and the world, we open new doors to healing.