Curing or Healing
“I’m not OK” is one of many beliefs that resonate with an inner orientation to curing rather than healing. Understanding the difference between the two is imperative so that we can break the cycles and patterns of our past and shift more and more into the cycle of revolutionary healing.
We tend to seek cure when we’re oriented toward dis-ease, and our focus lands on eliminating symptoms. This may be a desirable goal; however, when we focus on curing alone, we can easily be consumed with suppressing, fixing, fighting, or resisting. We are a culture that fights against disease and avoids pain at all costs. This is a defensive approach that resonates with brokenness or incapacity. As Dr. Remen states, this is the work of the ego. In this space, we measure our success, or our wellness, by results rather than by our (r)evolution and our process. Here we lose sight of our inherent capacity for healing and may feel disconnected from the deeper work of the soul.
When we orient toward healing we turn toward our process and our evolution rather than an endpoint. Our success, or wellness, is measured by our learning or growth and through our awareness. Symptoms are messengers to be heard and dis-ease is a calling to honor. Orienting toward healing is proactive as it invites us to strengthen our embodied awareness and our wholeness (more on this in part 2 of the blog). A healing orientation softens us into feeling and allowing, and it engenders self-trust. This is the work of the soul. In this place we feel connected to our inherent healing capacity. To be clear, the actual healing part can be really f-ing hard (more on this later in the series).
Consider this example from a potential client who wondered out loud with me what it could be like to stop the all-consuming pursuit of fixing her chronic pain after years of doing so, and instead, start living and learning alongside the pain. Notice the empowering distinction she made between curing/fixing and healing/evolving.
Whether self-healing or catalyzing healing for and with others, discernment of our orientation matters.
What I’ve noticed: When we orient to healing and wholeness more than curing and dis-ease, cure often (but not always) comes. Healing always precedes lasting cure.